After the long, frigid east coast winter this year I found myself in a desperate need to escape. So I began brainstorming domestic travel destinations and made a mental checklist of friends that could possibly join me. And by friends I mean gal friends. That's when it hit me that my best gal friends were all super busy living their young adult lives - dedicating their time and energy to new relationships (mostly romantic), studying, or working. So I knew asking them to join me for a week-long trip wasn't going to happen.
I'm not a brave soul to travel alone so I thought "well, why not travel with a guy friend?" And I instantly knew whom to ask - my friend Macon! I met Macon on a summer travel abroad trip to Peru junior year of college and have been friends with him for four years. What I admire the most about our friendship is that we are honest communicators which grants us the opportunity to express ourselves openly and disagree respectfully. And one thing we both agreed on - which was vital for the trip we were about to embark - is that we have a strict platonic friendship. This meant no romance and absolutely no sex. I'm glad we were able to establish this right away because some nights required us to book a one bedroom to save money. Which worked out in the end because we booked rooms with double beds or he didn't mind sleeping on the couch :)
Have you ever travelled with a friend of the opposite sex? I've noticed on my social media platforms that it isn't mainstream. Which stinks because it is totally possible and I'm sure it happens. My best guess for the lack of spotlight is that 1) if it's not clear to your audience that your friendship is strictly platonic then it opens up room for judgment and 2) if you're super single like me, the unclear judgment could possibly hinder your "status" if you're posting photos of the two of you. Again, this reality stinks.
So what are my words of wisdom? If you know in your heart the intentions of the trip and the people you travel with then that's all that matters. Try not to allow the false judgments of others to deter you from having a great time. In the end, Macon and I settled on going to California for a super epic adventure and networking event and it was an absolute blast. Plus, thanks to his willingness to take photos of me I have plenty to share with you on my blog!
Side note: the photo above was taken at Blue Plate Taco in Santa Monica, CA. I ordered their grilled fish tacos that came with rice and beans and paired it with La Piña Margarita. In hindsight, I wouldn't have ordered the grilled fish and would have gone for the chicken or steak, but I would still recommend checking it out. We had a chance to chat with young, hip locals so I really enjoyed the vibe.
What are your thoughts?